Winning at any cost
Understanding Your Relationship with Jiu-Jitsu When you step onto the mats, what goes through your mind? Despite repeated advice from coaches to relax, slow down, learn the technique, and play the game, your instinct might still push you to win at all costs—using strength, speed, and a competitive mindset. Let’s unpack this approach and explore a more effective path. Why Are You Training? This fundamental question was once posed to me: What kind of relationship do you want with Jiu-Jitsu? Reflect on what you seek from it and how much effort you’re willing to invest. Like any meaningful relationship, it requires time and dedication. Think of a personal relationship in your life—does it bring fulfillment, joy, and growth, or does it feel like a chore? Using this analogy, consider your relationship with Jiu-Jitsu. Are you training for: Fun or personal growth? Professional application (e.g., security or safety)? Validation of your masculinity? A personal goal, such as becoming a world cha...
